Divorce: A Chance to Redesign Your Life

When the decree absolute comes through the door do you feel that it’s the ultimate rejection or do you celebrate?

Why not look at Divorce as an opportunity? A chance to redesign your life, to make sure that you are living a life that you love and not just going through the motions.

Make time to really decide what you do and don’t want and then plan the steps you need to take to redesign your life.

The biggest challenge is deciding what you do want. So many people don’t know, maybe you haven’t even thought about it.

Steps to redesigning your life

Set aside a couple of hours, go somewhere you won’t be disturbed and think about what you want your life to be like. Write down all the things you would like to be, do and have. Write everything down, however crazy it may seem.

What did you used to enjoy before you were married? Did you sacrifice any dreams, ambitions or hobbies during your marriage?

Imagine that you are 90 years old, looking back over your life – what memories would you like to have?

What would you like people to be saying about you?

Now think about what steps you could take towards achieving your perfect life. Don’t think that it’s hopeless and you can’t change anything; think about what is stopping you from being, doing and having what you want. By making small changes, going one step at a time and trying different things you can change your life.

Five secrets to creating a life you love

1. Know what you want.

2. Be willing to take action.

3. Believe that there is no failure, only feedback

4. Be willing to try different things, if what you are doing isn’t working then do something different.
5. Be positive and believe that you can create a life you love.

The biggest challenge

The biggest challenge is believing that what you want is possible.

Next steps

Set yourself some goals - some steps you can take towards having the life you want. Small goals are fine – once you have achieved these then you can create some more goals to move you even closer to your ‘life’ goal. The secret is to write the goals down and make sure that you specify when you will achieve them by. As you achieve each goal celebrate your success, and then move on to the next goal.

If at first you don’t succeed………

Hire a Divorce Coach.

A Divorce Coach will:

Listen to you with undivided attention
Help you to clarify what you do want and how to get it
Work with you to challenge and destroy beliefs that are holding you back
Support you
Encourage you
Hold you accountable for attaining your goals

A Divorce Coach will not:

Assume that they ‘know what you mean’
Judge you
Tell you what you should do